I have a confession.
I’m a Facebook addict.
It’s the first thing I look at when I wake up in the morning, thanks to my smart phone. And it’s usually the last thing I look at before I go to sleep.
Plus all of the moments in between, during breakfast, or lunchtime, or at the park, or waiting in line at the supermarket, or when I get somewhere and my daughter has fallen asleep in her car seat.
I’m sure there are plenty of others just like me, who have the compulsion to check their notifications and respond to comments and visit their private groups to catch the latest goss.
The truth is, Facebook was one of my lifelines when my husband went back to work after our daughter was born and the visitors dried up. It was the middle of winter. I had this crying baby to content with. And it was incredibly reassuring to know that the mums in my online mothers group were all going through the same thing.
I’d never tell someone to quit Facebook. Because I’ve tried it. It’s no fun, having all of these connections and then one day shutting them off completely. It’s kind of sad.
But what I would recommend is, if you’re struggling to get time for your art but you’ve got no issues finding time for Candy Crush or Farmville (two Facebook things I did not get sucked into, thankfully), it’s time to reassess your priorities. It’s time to create some rules for yourself around using social media – and stick to them!
I spend a LOT of time on social media, and I really enjoy the support. But I have limits now. I’ll check it several times a day, but I give myself time limits. I make rules, like I can’t check Facebook until I’ve written 1000 words or until my daughter has gone to bed.
I’m getting a lot more done now, and I still don’t feel like I had to give anything up.
So, if you’re a social media addict… I guess I’m an enabler?